Today's Frustration
There is something that keeps running in my mind which I find to be irritable and so would like to share it with you all. Let me know your thoughts after reading this because.... it's frustrating to me!
Upon my mother's return from the hospital this afternoon, I was asking my brother to clean the living room. Upon hearing this, she said that from today, my brother should neither clean the house nor wash the dishes. My sister and I questioned her reasoning because when we have been doing this for years why can't he do the same. She replied that her father called and asked her not to let my brother do house chores, stating that it would affect him psychologically. Finding this absurd, we called our grandpa.
The phone was answered by my grandma, who said that doing house chores would affect my brother's ego, and she hung up, saying grandpa was busy with work and would call us later. Nearly an hour and a half passed, and my phone rang. It was my grandpa. I asked my sister to answer because she's quite bold when arguing with grandpa about controversial topics.
The call ended up being controversial indeed. My sister, straight to the point, asked for the reason behind his proposal. The reply was that as a man, my brother would develop an inferiority complex by doing house chores; he would feel suppressed as they aren't his job. Men's job is to buy things from outside and do minimal tasks like helping us grab things required when cleaning or cooking. He said that men are supposed to do small tasks, and house chores belong to women.
My sister questioned what my brother would do years later as a married man when asked to do chores by his wife, and if that would not then develop an inferiority complex. He replied that he would adjust with his wife but not adjust with his sisters now. Disappointed, we ended the call.
This event really disappointed my sister and me because of the way their thoughts run. We live in the 21st century where everyone is given equal opportunity and respect irrespective of their gender, and there are countless schools educating on gender equality. And my grandpa, a correspondent who educates thousands of students, says that it would hurt my brother's ego! I find it ridiculous.
Do his thoughts mean that my sister and I should learn to do chores from the age of 10, but my brother can learn it but not do it? What is the use of them praising me as the eldest daughter who is the birth of goddess Lakshmi when they are going to ask me to do chores?
I can try to be happy doing chores, saying that this is my home; that's how I was told since I was ten. And in these years when the house was a mess, we sisters tried to keep it clean, which ended up becoming our instinct. I really don't know how to put my thoughts into words... AAHHHHH.
My mind is filled with the word WHY! I feel bad that even at home, there is gender bias pushed onto us by the older generation because even my brother doesn't find doing chores as something disgusting or something that would affect his pride. He is neither happy nor sad doing chores as he finds it as a duty to be shared by the family. When he is fine with helping us doing chores what is their freaking problem???
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